Taking a reality check
Could this be you?
Cartoon © “Sensitive guy 2″ - from big-big-truck.com
I can think of times… and I sure came across examples while writing the book where people felt they’d missed out on opportunities once they looked back. Some called it luck or fate… honestly… you know I don’t believe that.
Today’s entry is nice n simple, keep your eyes open!
hard hitting truths from HBI
Every week, I’m going to bring you the best articles on “nice guy” syndrome… even when they’re hard edged and full of home truths…
Today’s is from the “Heartless Bitches International” - I love this article, because it pulls no punches, here’s an exert -
(click the headline to see the full article)
Why “Nice Guys” are often such LOSERS
You hear it all the time: “He was such a NICE Guy, and she’s such a Heartless Bitch for dumping him.”
I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like shit, because THEY, the “Nice Guy” have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that “Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. Therefore, all mammals live in the sea.”
If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.
What’s wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys ™ are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him. …more…
A 10 step cure for nice guy syndrome
I found this great little “how to” article:
How to cure yourself of nice guy syndrome from Amanda Ford
If nice guys finish last and if jerks are … well … jerks, what’s a good guy to do to get a girl? Often nice guys are thoughtful, compassionate men who reject (sometimes consciously, sometimes unconsciously) male stereotypes in hopes of becoming more well-rounded individuals. The problem is that nice guys have rejected too much of their own masculinity, placing themselves at the opposite extreme of the healthy man continuum. So how do men cure themselves of nice-guy syndrome? Here’s how… [read]