speed dating
Posted on March 26, 2008
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Why is this almost a taboo subject for some people?
Hi, my names Luke and I’ve been speed dating… twice!
Wow, that felt like a confession.
Ok so both times I’ve been had ulterior motives, the first as a report for local radio on speed dating and the second as a wingman to support a friend who was shy.
Both times were great fun, yes there were awkward moments but then BING on to the next, three minutes really isn’t that long.
Lets cut to the chase… 5 reasons why should you try speed dating:
1) If you’re new to an area it’s a great way to meet people, I spoke to one guy who’d just moved to the area and thought it’d be an easy way to make friends. Interestingly this guy got the most dates of anyone I know… I think this is partly due to the fact he’d placed himself under less pressure and thereby made himself more appealing. We got on well, I still see him for a drink now and again too.
2) It’s ruthlessly efficient! We’ve all heard that first impressions count, if you think about it, does it even take 3 minutes for you to make a judgement on someone? No, so why waste longer?
3) Its always good to do something different. Pushing your comfort zone if you’re less confident helps you in other situations. I have another friend who kept speed dating till he wasn’t scared to speak to random girls anymore… brilliant! (In case you haven’t already, go read the eBook “you have the confidence already” for more on this one)
4) the odds are great. Both times I’ve been (and friends I’ve spoken with agreed) the women outnumbered the men. In other social situations the odds are usually against you… which game do you play to win? I think the answers obvious but are you doing it?
5) It’s fun. Really, I had a great time on both occasions. My advice is, go in with the attitude you’re going for the sake of having a laugh and doing something different. If you go in expecting to meet your dream woman and fall in love, you’ll likely fail and be dis-appointed… going in with a more relaxed mindset will make you more appealing… PLUS… most speed dating events offer some form of free session if you get no matches, so it’s a winner either way anyway!!
hard hitting truths from HBI
Posted on March 14, 2008
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Every week, I’m going to bring you the best articles on “nice guy” syndrome… even when they’re hard edged and full of home truths…
Today’s is from the “Heartless Bitches International” - I love this article, because it pulls no punches, here’s an exert -
(click the headline to see the full article)
Why “Nice Guys” are often such LOSERS
You hear it all the time: “He was such a NICE Guy, and she’s such a Heartless Bitch for dumping him.”
I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like shit, because THEY, the “Nice Guy” have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that “Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. Therefore, all mammals live in the sea.”
If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.
What’s wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys ™ are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him. …more…
advice for the girls
Posted on March 3, 2008
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We’ve had a few emails and messages, asking for advice from “nice girls”.
The eBook was written from a male perspective, but during my research I found this article by Gillian Reynolds that I thought I’d share with y’all.
What Makes Men Fall in Love - Secrets For Women
Most women don’t have any idea what makes men fall in love. It’s easy to assume that attraction is based primarily on looks. Granted men do notice a pretty girl, but most men aren’t that shallow. Men want a woman who is interesting, intelligent and fun to be with. They also want a woman who isn’t afraid to have her own opinions.
Seems to me the eBook applies to both sexes, perhaps more than I realised - what do you think?