hard hitting truths from HBI
Every week, I’m going to bring you the best articles on “nice guy” syndrome… even when they’re hard edged and full of home truths…
Today’s is from the “Heartless Bitches International” - I love this article, because it pulls no punches, here’s an exert -
(click the headline to see the full article)
Why “Nice Guys” are often such LOSERS
You hear it all the time: “He was such a NICE Guy, and she’s such a Heartless Bitch for dumping him.”
I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like shit, because THEY, the “Nice Guy” have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that “Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. Therefore, all mammals live in the sea.”
If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.
What’s wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys ™ are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him. …more…
advice for the girls
We’ve had a few emails and messages, asking for advice from “nice girls”.
The eBook was written from a male perspective, but during my research I found this article by Gillian Reynolds that I thought I’d share with y’all.
What Makes Men Fall in Love - Secrets For Women
Most women don’t have any idea what makes men fall in love. It’s easy to assume that attraction is based primarily on looks. Granted men do notice a pretty girl, but most men aren’t that shallow. Men want a woman who is interesting, intelligent and fun to be with. They also want a woman who isn’t afraid to have her own opinions.
Seems to me the eBook applies to both sexes, perhaps more than I realised - what do you think?
A 10 step cure for nice guy syndrome
I found this great little “how to” article:
How to cure yourself of nice guy syndrome from Amanda Ford
If nice guys finish last and if jerks are … well … jerks, what’s a good guy to do to get a girl? Often nice guys are thoughtful, compassionate men who reject (sometimes consciously, sometimes unconsciously) male stereotypes in hopes of becoming more well-rounded individuals. The problem is that nice guys have rejected too much of their own masculinity, placing themselves at the opposite extreme of the healthy man continuum. So how do men cure themselves of nice-guy syndrome? Here’s how… [read]