Taking a reality check
Could this be you?
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I can think of times… and I sure came across examples while writing the book where people felt they’d missed out on opportunities once they looked back. Some called it luck or fate… honestly… you know I don’t believe that.
Today’s entry is nice n simple, keep your eyes open!
11 reasons to go online for love
After writing the post about speed dating, it got me thinking about other modern approaches to dating, like online dating.
Scanning through the worldwide-super-interweb I found a neat little article with 11 reasons to go online for love, yes, it is written for a dating site… but I think it makes some very valid points.
11 Reasons To Go Online For Love
1 You don’t have to wait until the weekend to meet someone.
2 You don’t have to get dressed up for a night “online”. Wear whatever you feel comfortable in at home.
3 If you work unusual hours online dating fits in with your schedule. You can log on at any time of the day to suit you; there is always someone online waiting to chat.
4 If you start chatting to someone and then decide they are not what you are looking for, put them back in the net gently and choose another. There are plenty of fish in the sea!
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Find the approach that suits you, get out there and do it!
speed dating
Why is this almost a taboo subject for some people?
Hi, my names Luke and I’ve been speed dating… twice!
Wow, that felt like a confession.
Ok so both times I’ve been had ulterior motives, the first as a report for local radio on speed dating and the second as a wingman to support a friend who was shy.
Both times were great fun, yes there were awkward moments but then BING on to the next, three minutes really isn’t that long.
Lets cut to the chase… 5 reasons why should you try speed dating:
1) If you’re new to an area it’s a great way to meet people, I spoke to one guy who’d just moved to the area and thought it’d be an easy way to make friends. Interestingly this guy got the most dates of anyone I know… I think this is partly due to the fact he’d placed himself under less pressure and thereby made himself more appealing. We got on well, I still see him for a drink now and again too.
2) It’s ruthlessly efficient! We’ve all heard that first impressions count, if you think about it, does it even take 3 minutes for you to make a judgement on someone? No, so why waste longer?
3) Its always good to do something different. Pushing your comfort zone if you’re less confident helps you in other situations. I have another friend who kept speed dating till he wasn’t scared to speak to random girls anymore… brilliant! (In case you haven’t already, go read the eBook “you have the confidence already” for more on this one)
4) the odds are great. Both times I’ve been (and friends I’ve spoken with agreed) the women outnumbered the men. In other social situations the odds are usually against you… which game do you play to win? I think the answers obvious but are you doing it?
5) It’s fun. Really, I had a great time on both occasions. My advice is, go in with the attitude you’re going for the sake of having a laugh and doing something different. If you go in expecting to meet your dream woman and fall in love, you’ll likely fail and be dis-appointed… going in with a more relaxed mindset will make you more appealing… PLUS… most speed dating events offer some form of free session if you get no matches, so it’s a winner either way anyway!!